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Grateful That I Have Some Good Dates Mixed In With The Crazy Ones (or Finding New Places In My Neighborhood)

I definitely have more bad dating stories than I have good dating stories. A lot of the bad stories are about guys I’ve never met, but who are creeps while messaging me, and then I have to unmatch or block them. Fortunately, they out themselves as creeps before I waste too much time on them or make an effort to meet them in person. But of the dates that I actually go on, they still tend to be more negative than positive. Even sometimes the good dates end as not-good dates because there’s not going to be a second date for whatever reason. It’s always disappointing when I think it’s a good date and then the guy says that he doesn’t see a romantic future with me. But I know that it is a numbers game and that eventually, I’ll meet someone good.

And as I’ve said before, at least my bad dating stories give me something funny to write about. The book I wrote about dating is mainly filled with the bad and crazy dates I’ve been on. I’ve written about some of the good ones because I learned some great lessons from those too, but they tend to not be entertaining.

But I also have stories that are about dating but not specifically about the guys I’ve met. I have a section in the book about how dating has allowed me to go to some really fun places around LA. Even after living here for over 20 years, there are so many places I’ve never been to and sometimes they are really amazing and cool. And over the past year, I’ve been learning how there are some hidden gems in my own neighborhood that I’ve never been to either.

I’ve lived in my current neighborhood for 13 years now. And before that, I lived only a mile away from where I am now. So since 2004, I’ve been within a pretty close radius and I feel like I’ve had a lot of time to explore my little part of LA. But there are always places that I just have never been to or places that are new that I haven’t been able to go to yet.

Whenever I have a date and we are meeting near where I live, I have the same few places that I suggest for a first date. They are always places that are very public, usually have others around, and I feel like I can be safe. Most of the time, I’m asked where the date should be. But sometimes the guy I’m meeting suggests the place and it’s somewhere I’ve never been. Before I agree to meet them there, I usually check to make sure that it seems safe. Most of the time, they are suggesting a bar I’ve never been to so it’s usually ok. There’s only one time I remember looking up the bar that was suggested and the reviews online were filled with women warning others that the staff seemed sketchy and they didn’t feel safe. But as long as it seems safe, I’ll agree to go there and it’s usually a fun adventure.

In the past year, I’ve gone to multiple bars that I’ve never been to or even heard of before. Some of them are somewhat close to where I live, but it makes sense that I’ve never been there before. But I had a date recently that suggested a bar that was maybe 10 blocks from my house and I had never heard of it. I’ve probably driven past that bar a thousand times over the years because it’s on a main street that I take several times a week. I couldn’t believe I never noticed a bar there or had been there before, but it was a fun adventure to get to check out a new place.

It was very unique inside but it was comfortable and didn’t feel like you were there to be seen or had to be on while you were sitting there. And there were booths to sit in so you didn’t have to be in the middle of everyone when it started to get a bit more crowded in there.

And the date I had there was a good date. Not just because I got to learn about a new to me place in my neighborhood, but that was a nice bonus. And if I need to suggest a bar in the future for a first date, I might suggest this place since it was fun (at least until karaoke started and it got a bit too loud).

Even if things with this guy don’t move beyond the date we had, at least it was a good date and a positive one to remember when things get crazy or I start to feel a bit hopeless in the endless swiping on the apps. Good dates like this one help me to keep going and remember that not everyone will be a bad date. And I just have to keep going and hoping I’ll find the right guy soon enough. But until then, I guess I’ll just have to look forward to maybe learning about more places near my house that I never would have discovered otherwise.

Recognizing Some Weird Habits (or Continuing To Work On Being Used To My New Space)

I’ve been living in my condo for just over 9 months now, and I feel like I’m still getting used to it. I was worried about the move being weird, especially since I was staying in the same neighborhood. I joked that I would probably accidentally pull into the wrong driveway at least once because I had been going into that driveway for 12 years. I’m still shocked that I haven’t made that mistake yet, and even before I was fully moved out, my old place just didn’t feel like home anymore. Maybe I’ll make that mistake someday, but at least for now, it hasn’t happened.

But I’ve been noticing other odd habits that I think have carried over from living at my old place. I had such a routine being in that home for over a decade and so many of them were specific to that space. But because they had become routine to me, I guess I carried them into my new home and it took me until now to realize what I was doing.

A lot of these old habits have to do with how I put things away or store things. I’m so used to having very little space and even less storage space. I found a way to make a 400-square-foot home not feel tiny and cramped, but I think a lot of that was luck and how I put things away when I brought them into my home. I had only so many places I could put things like my purse or keys and if they weren’t in that location they made my place feel messy or I couldn’t find what I needed when I needed them.

Now that I’m in a home that’s almost 3 times the size, I’m still doing some things the way I did when I had less space. I’m trying to find places to store things that feel a bit more random and weird. I don’t need to store things behind others in closets or squish things into drawers anymore. It took me until this past weekend to realize I had the entire top of the closet in my guest room/office to store things and I finally put some things away in there. I’m used to putting things away in specific areas, but they aren’t always the best places now that I have more options. I went through this a lot with what I stored in my bathroom compared to before, but I guess it never really connected that I needed to do this for other areas of my home.

I am still getting some furniture that I know I need to store items, but I’m hopefully getting my new tv stand in the next few weeks so that will give me a bit more storage space in my living room. And I’ll probably keep my old tv stand in my office for a little while and use that for storage until I get the library bed I’ll be putting in there eventually. I still have things in boxes that I’d like to put away when I can, even if the place I put them isn’t going to be where they stay for a long time. But I’m realizing that it’s not a big deal for me to have to rearrange or reorganize things as I continue to get more furniture or more set up in my home. And as I do that, I hopefully will find more of these storage habits I have held on to and see how I can do things better in my current place.

I know that it’s not easy to break habits I have had for almost 25% of my life. I need to remember how much space I have now and how I can put things where I want to and not just where it has to go because that’s the only place they can fit. And I’m sure I’ll create some other odd habits with storage in this place too and if I move in the future I’ll have to break those. But for now, I just want to really allow myself to take advantage of how much space I have and feel like I can use it the way that seems right to me now and now just how I am used to doing things.

A Cheesecake Lunch (or Still Keeping Up With An Annual Tradition)

Going out to the Cheesecake Factory around the new year has been a long-running tradition with my birthday twin. We used to go closer to Christmas or New Year’s, but the last few years have been more about just getting there at some point in January instead of worrying about going during the holidays. It is nice going during the holidays since the outdoor mall we go to has some really nice decorations, but I also like going outside of the holidays since it’s not as crowded. This time, we also decided to go on the weekend for lunch instead of going after work one day. That allowed us to have a bit more flexibility with how long we were there and we didn’t feel tired after having a full workday.

I was surprised when we got there and we were able to be seated immediately. We are used to having a long wait, but we must have gotten there at exactly the right time because they were able to seat us at a table outside with no issues. And I wanted to sit outside since I’m still a bit hesitant about being somewhere inside without having a mask on. It was cold, but they have a lot of heat lamps on their balcony so it was actually warmer outside under the heat lamps than it was just being inside. Plus, it’s always nicer to sit outside where we can people-watch while we eat.

Because we went on a weekend for lunch, we had brunch as an option for our food. I was seriously considering getting something different that I’ve never had, but I ended up getting the same salad I always do. I was trying to think about what I would enjoy plus trying to have something that is at least somewhat healthy considering how bad the meal could be.

As soon as we placed our order, it was time for our catch-up. We always have a lot to catch up on when we have our meals together. She filled me in on the renovation she had to do to her condo, which had been something happening for the last year. And I told her about my crazy date, which was the day before, and some of the things I want to still do to the condo. I think both of us going through renovations at the same time has made her the perfect friend to bounce ideas off of when I have had moments where I wasn’t sure if I wanted to do something or not. Or to be someone who understands how stressful it can be to have to make so many decisions.

And of course, we got cheesecake. I think we confused our server when we asked if each piece could be cut in half so we each would get half, but he understood and we each got half of the flavors we ordered.

With my new medication, I’m not eating as much as I did before, but I still was able to enjoy this meal. I just had a lot less of my salad than I normally would and I ate probably half of the cheesecake I normally would. I rarely finish the food we get since it’s so much, but it was still interesting to see how much less I wanted to have this time. But that’s not a bad thing so I’m not mad about it.

And since we were there for lunch instead of a later dinner, we had some time to wander around after we were done eating. I think we both needed to walk a bit before getting back into our cars after that meal. We did a little window shopping at a few of the stores while walking around and then we went into Cost Plus since I wanted to see what they still had on sale since I know they normally have things on sale after Christmas. I ended up getting a couple of random things that I didn’t really need but would look nice as decor around my condo. And nothing was very expensive or elaborate. But I am trying to be better about either getting things that are cute that catch my attention or noting them somewhere to buy later. I want to make sure my home has things in it that are nice and make me happy.

After shopping for a bit, we both had to head back to our cars to get to other things we needed to do. But it was a nice change to our tradition to be able to spend more time than just eating a meal and then leaving. Maybe we’ll continue to do lunches for our cheesecake meals so we don’t have to feel as rushed as we have in the past. But even if in a year we are back to doing dinner, it’s still a tradition I look forward to each year and I’m so glad that we fit it in this year!

An Almost Normal Workout Week (or Happy To Be Able To Push Myself)

I was so grateful to be feeling better this past week. I wasn’t feeling the best I can feel, but it was so much better than the week before. I had only a little bit of nausea left toward the beginning of the week, but it felt like a huge relief compared to the week before. I’m always so happy when I’m at this point in my monthly nausea because I know it normally means I’m about to have a good week soon.

Monday’s workout was a bit different from my usual because I had the day off work. I was able to go to a slightly later workout than normal, but I still went in the morning because I like to get my workout done before enjoying the rest of my day. And because I went to a different class time, I had a 2 group class instead of a 3 group one.

For cardio, we had 4 blocks. The first block was a push pace, base pace, and all-out. The second block was the same as the first plus a recovery after the all-out and then another all-out after. The third block added on another recovery and another all-out. And the last block again added on another recovery and all-out. But the push pace got shorter each block so that helped to make the all-outs a little easier to get through.

On the floor, we also had 4 blocks and it was a similar pattern to what we did on cardio. When cardio had its push pace, the floor had a row. And then we had timed exercises on the floor and we added on exercises each block. The first block had only front squats. The second block added on lateral lunges and plank knee drives. The third block added on low rows with weights. And the last block added on lateral hops. It was a lot on the floor with very little rest, but it was a good challenge and I was happy with having a little less rowing than normal.

I was back to my normal workout time on Tuesday and I was feeling even better than I had on Monday.

For cardio, we had 2 blocks. In the first block, we started at a base and increased the speed/resistance level every 30 seconds, ending at an all-out. I just added one level to the resistance level each time and it perfectly ended at my normal all-out level. After those intervals, we had a minute to recover, and then we had a 3-minute distance challenge. For the second block, we started with the distance challenge and then did the progressive one after.

On the rower, we started with a 250-meter row. Then we rested as much as needed and did another 250-meter row, with the goal to beat the time from the first time. After the second row, we had overhead presses with the medicine ball. We repeated that pattern, but the row was decreased by 50 meters every time we did it. I wasn’t always able to do better on my second row for a certain distance, but I was always very close.

And on the floor, we had 2 blocks. The first block had lunges, reverse flys, and leg raises. And the second block had step-ups, rows on the straps, and plank dips. I was able to do the step-ups since I lowered the bench, but even with the lower bench, they are still a challenge for me to do, especially with my balance issues. But I’ve been really trying to keep trying them even if they take me longer than a modification because I know it will help me in the long run.

Wednesday’s workout was a tornado workout and it was hard! I think it might have been one of the harder tornado classes we’ve had and I knew I had to pace myself. But I also wanted to push myself and finding that happy medium was tough.

On cardio, each block started with a 1-minute push pace. After that, in the first block, we had a 1-minute base and in the second block, we had a 30-second base. After that, we had a .1 mile (or .4 mile on the bike) all-out with recovery until a 30-second all-out at the end of the block. It was a lot each time and I didn’t have a lot of recovery time in any block.

On the rower, whenever cardio was in a push or base pace, we had a timed row. So they ranged between 2 minutes and 1 minute. Then we had front presses and overhead presses with a medicine ball before getting back on the rower and rowing until a 30-second all-out row at the end.

And on the floor, we started with timed exercises to go along with cardio and the rower. we had lunges and plank pops. And then for the rest of the block, we had squats, bicep curls, and upper cuts. And for the last 30 seconds of the block, we had crunch holds. I didn’t go too heavy with my weights because there wasn’t any rest in the block and I wanted to try to keep going until the block ended each time.

Thursday was tough too, and it felt like a lot after how tough Wednesday was. But I was up for seeing what I could do and I was so glad that I was doing these while feeling good.

We had 2 cardio blocks that had the same pattern. We had a 2-minute push pace, 1-minute base pace, 1-minute push pace at an incline, 1-minute base pace, and 90-second push pace at an incline. The inclines/resistance levels were higher for the first block than the second block, but they weren’t too high for either block and I didn’t feel too much of a difference compared to when I’m normally pushing myself. I think that was the idea of these low inclines to prove what we can really accomplish.

On the rower, we also had 2 blocks with the same pattern. We started with a 2-minute push row before having a series of 1-minute intervals. In each interval, we had to do 10 reps of an exercise, and then whatever time was left over was spent rowing. In the first block, we had front and back steps and in the second block, we had side-to-side crunches. Getting on and off the rower so frequently was tough for me and I usually only had about 10 seconds left to row each time, so I didn’t get a ton of rowing in outside of the first part of each block. But I was glad I did the exercises and didn’t just row because I wanted to see if I could do it.

And on the floor, we had one long block. We had 3 different anchor exercises and 3 normal exercises. We started with doing the first anchor before each of the normal exercises. The next round had the second anchor before each of the normal exercises. And so on. The anchor exercises were shoulder presses, reverse grip low rows, and chest presses. And the regular exercises were plank shoulder taps, back extensions, and crunches. I did have to do some modifications to the exercises, but they were minor compared to what I’ve done in the past.

Overall, I think this past week was one of my better workout weeks. I needed a good week to boost my confidence and this was exactly what I needed. And hopefully, this week will be another good week for me so I can continue to feel amazing about how I’m doing with my workouts!

Making Sure All The Details Are Right (or Maybe This Is Actually The End)

The renovation of my condo has been a much longer process than I think anyone imagined. There were things that were out of our control that added to the timeline and there were things that needed to be adjusted or corrected that made things take longer. I’ve never really been directly involved in a renovation before, so I didn’t know what to expect going into this. But I know that things haven’t been as easy as they could have been. It’s been frustrating, especially when I was waiting for most of the work to be done so I could finally move in. I think the last 8 months since I lived here were easier since I wasn’t also dealing with the stress of a bad landlord and trying to get ready to move.

There were a few small things that were fixed in the fall and I was hoping at that time that would be the end of the work. But unfortunately, there were more issues that came up after that. Everything was pretty minor and didn’t necessarily affect my daily living, but they needed to be fixed. If this was a rental and it was a handyman fixing things, I wouldn’t be as picky. But since this is my home and we hired them to do specific work, I want everything to be right. For example, I found some cracks in the grout in my kitchen that I wanted to be fixed. This wasn’t going to cause any issues in my kitchen or become a bigger problem down the line, but I still wanted there to be no cracks in the grout.

Because of scheduling, the holidays, and other stuff happening; the contractor wasn’t able to get to my place until this past week. There were only a handful of things to fix, and they were all connected to tile work and things like grout and caulking. I was very specific with them about what needed to be fixed and how I wanted it to be completed (thanks to my parents who told me what needed to be done), and I know I was probably a little harsh and maybe rude when talking to them. But this has been a year-long process and I felt like things had taken long enough and I was ready for it to be done.

I think because there have been so many little fixes, they had a supervisor here as well to make sure that my concerns were being understood and addressed and they also explained some of the repairs that were being done a little differently than what I expected. I know I don’t know a lot about construction, but I still want to make sure that I understand why certain materials are being used and not others. For example, to fix some cracked grout, they didn’t use normal grout but something that was more like a grout and caulk hybrid so it would allow for movement that might happen from the unit above mine and would hopefully prevent any other cracks in the future. I appreciate that they took the time to go over those things with me so I felt a bit better about everything going on.

As far as I can tell, I think the work is finally done. We haven’t signed off on it yet because my parents want to see everything in person. They will be here in about a month, so they will go over everything in super detail to make sure there isn’t something missing or incomplete. But I have high hopes that maybe the work is finally done and I can feel like I’ve gotten past this phase of my new home. If it’s not, I guess there will be a bit more work to do before I can finally feel like that.

Exactly The Musical I Needed To See (or I Wasn’t Expecting To Like This Show This Much)

I’m about halfway through my musical season, which is surprising since it feels like it just started. But this season is split up with a few other shows, so I don’t have another show until this summer when we have 3 shows within 3 months. So I’ll be missing seeing shows for a little while, but I think that the show we got to see this past weekend will make up for that because I really loved the show we saw.

It’s always a tradition to go to Wood & Vine before the show, and we continued that again. We lucked out because we have been having a lot of storms here in LA and Sunday was a break from the rain. So we were able to sit outside and stay warm under a heat lamp. And it was nice to have some outside time when I feel like I’ve been cooped up inside for a while. As always, the food was so delicious and amazing. We ordered a lot of things that we had before, but they have all been favorites of ours.

I was also smarter before going out that night and didn’t eat too much for breakfast or lunch so I had room for all the good food. Everything was really fulfilling and perfect for the stormy weather we have been going through.

And our show that night was one that was supposed to be in the 2019-2020 season that was canceled. But I’m glad the show decided to set up a tour again and they were a part of this season.

I love the movie “Mean Girls” and I was excited to see how it was adapted into a musical. I’ve seen some adaptations that I loved and some that weren’t as great, but I had high hopes for this one. Plus, I knew that the show would be very high-energy and silly so I was looking forward to that.

But what I didn’t expect was how much I would love the show. I thought the cast was so talented and the songs were very funny. Even when there was a technical glitch and the show had to take a very long pause, they were able to come back with as much energy and enthusiasm as before. And you couldn’t tell that they had to make some last-minute staging changes to accommodate the technical issues.

The story is pretty much the same as the movie and there are also a lot of the same characters. But there is a new level to the story with the songs. And I feel like the songs were so many different genres so they almost felt like a collective or a mix tape than something written by a single person. I really loved that. And the sets were almost all using screens, which is something I normally don’t love but it really worked with the show. It allowed the staging to quickly switch from one location to another and it kept the show moving quickly.

I really needed to see a show like Mean Girls. It was so fun and a nice escape from everything else going on in the world and in my life. And that’s why I love having season tickets for musicals. Normally, they aren’t just entertaining but a way to remove myself from any stress and worries in my life and I can just enjoy that moment in time and be really connected to a show. It will be weird that I might not have another musical until the summer, but maybe I’ll find something else to go and check out in the meantime!

An Unexpected Workout Week (or Starting Off The New Year With Workouts)

I knew this past week of workouts would be a bit different because of my schedule, but it ended up being even more unique than that. I still got in my workouts, but it was also a bit of an adventure.

On Sunday, I went to a late morning workout since I wasn’t sure how tired I’d be after New Year’s Eve. I probably could have done an earlier class, but I’m glad I didn’t have to rush around that morning.

For cardio, we had 2 blocks. In the first block, we started at a base and increased the speed/resistance level every 30 seconds, ending at an all-out. And then we had a 3-minute distance challenge. For the second block, we started with the distance challenge and then did the progressive one after

On the rower, we started with a 250-meter row. Then we rested as much as needed and did another 250-meter row, with the goal to beat the time from the first time. Then we had chest presses with a medicine ball. We repeated that pattern, but the row was decreased by 50 meters every time we did it.

And on the floor, we had 2 blocks. The first block had lunges, reverse flys, and leg raises. And the second block had squats, rows on the straps, and plank dips. It wasn’t as intense of a workout as a lot of the past ones, but I was glad to have something easy for once since I knew I’d be working hard in a lot of other workouts.

Monday’s workout was a tornado class, so we switched between sections about every 4 minutes. And this workout was definitely a new one for me.

I started on cardio where we had a 1-minute push pace, a 1-minute base pace, and then we had rounds of a short distance challenge with recoveries between each one. Then we switched to the rower. We had just started with a 2-minute row when I noticed that someone two rowers away was on the ground. I thought at first that they fell off the rower, which is something I’ve done before, but everyone in the class realized it was something more serious. They had fainted on the rower and we were lucky that there was an ER nurse in the class who was able to help them out. But because it seemed like they had hit their head, the paramedics were called.

Everyone else in the class went into the lobby to wait and see what would happen, and because the paramedics were called, the class was canceled. Almost everyone left because the workout ended, but I decided to put myself on the waitlist for the next class to try to take that one. And while I was waiting for the next class, the person who fainted came out to the lobby. They were ok, and I’m glad nothing more serious happened. I think they might have just been embarrassed at that point, but I know everyone who was in that class was just happy to know they were ok.

When the next class started, technically there wasn’t enough room for the 2 of us on the waitlist, but since we both came from the last class we agreed to share a station so we could at least do some of the workout. So I didn’t do more rowing because I used the bike for both cardio and rowing. But I was just grateful I got to finish my workout. And we shared the floor space which was ok since the exercises didn’t take up that much room. We had the same exercises every time we were on the floor which were lunges, plank pops, squats, bicep curls, and uppercuts. Since I had done some of the first workout as well, I figured it was like I had done 1.25 workouts that day.

Tuesday was a bit harder since I was back to my early workout and it was my 4th day in a row (although not my 4th workout for the week). But fortunately, I wasn’t feeling super nauseous, which I was worried about. I still had some nausea, but it was much more manageable.

We had 2 cardio blocks that had the same pattern. We had a 2-minute push pace, 1-minute base pace, 1-minute push pace at an incline, 1-minute base pace, and 90-second push pace at an incline. The inclines/resistance levels were higher for the first block than the second block, but they weren’t too high for either block.

On the rower, we also had 2 blocks with the same pattern. We started with a 2-minute push row before having a series of 1-minute intervals. In each interval, we had to do 10 reps of an exercise, and then whatever time was left over was spent rowing. In the first block, we had front and back steps and in the second block, we had butt kicks. Getting on and off the rower so frequently was tough for me and I usually only had about 10 seconds left to row each time, so I didn’t get a ton of rowing in outside of the first part of each block.

And on the floor, we had one long block. It was a bit complicated. We had 3 different anchor exercises and 3 normal exercises. We started with doing the first anchor before each of the normal exercises. The next round had the second anchor before each of the normal exercises. And so on. The anchor exercises were shoulder presses, reverse grip low rows, and chest presses. And the regular exercises were walkouts to plank shoulder taps, back extensions, and bicycle crunches. I only got through some of the exercises with the third anchor exercise, but it was still a lot of work.

Thursday’s workout was my last workout of the week, and it was a benchmark class. This time, we had the 200-meter benchmark. I knew I had made a lot of improvements with my rowing recently, but my PR was from before the pandemic when I know I was really strong. So I went into this workout just wanting to do really well on the benchmark but with no expectations.

I started with cardio and for the first two blocks, we had a 4-minute distance challenge. And in the third block, we had rounds of a push pace and base pace with an all-out at the end. But because the benchmark would be after cardio, we were told to go a little easier than normal.

On the rower, the first block was to get us warmed up. So we had rounds of a 200-meter row at a push pace with squats to calf raises after. But those 200-meter rows weren’t supposed to be too crazy because the second block was the benchmark. We had the full 4 minutes to do the benchmark, and it usually is between 30-60 seconds. So I took a few extra breaths before starting just to get calm and ready. I tried to use all the new techniques I’ve been picking up recently and also had to make sure I wouldn’t gas out halfway through. I didn’t look at the time on the screen, only at how many meters I had left. And when I was done, I was shocked.

I took about .4 seconds off of my last PR. I really didn’t think I would PR, but I guess this is proof of all my hard work! For the last block, we had the chance to redo the benchmark if we wanted to, but if we didn’t want to (and I didn’t), we had squats to calf raises and lunges before rowing until the end of the block.

And on the floor, we also had 3 blocks. In the first block, we had high to low rows on the straps and hip hinge swings. In the second block, we had pike to planks and superman planks. I did the pike to planks modified to be like blastoff push-ups. And in the last block, we had single-leg deadlifts, plank pull-throughs, and lateral lunges. I tried to go hard on the floor since I was already done with the benchmark, but I also was a bit tired from pushing myself so much.

For the first week of the year, I had a lot happening in my workouts. I don’t know if this is a sign of things to come, but I have also learned that I can never expect what will happen over the year in my workouts and I guess this really represented that well.

Another Low-Key New Year’s Eve (or At Least I Made It Until Midnight)

I continued my tradition of having a low-key New Year’s Eve again. I know that some people love going out or going somewhere fancy and festive, but that’s just not who I am. I do love occasions where I can dress up, but not when it’s going to be super crowded and likely overpriced. So doing something that isn’t too fancy is much more my speed. And pretty much every year I do the same thing, hang out with my friends and just have a very easy evening.

I’m glad I got to spend time with my friends and it was a smaller group than normal for a few different reasons. But we all still had fun and a nice time being together. It was a little crazy getting there because of the rain storms, but at least I wasn’t in a rush to get there and could take my time while driving. And I lucked out and found a parking spot very close to my friend’s house so I didn’t have to walk too far in the rain.

Since it was storming, we all pretty much spent the evening inside. We sometimes went outside to get fresh air, but it was cold and windy as well. So I’m glad it was a smaller group since we were inside a lot more than normal. Everyone there also were people I knew so it wasn’t like I was around a lot of new people who I couldn’t be sure took as many precautions about things as my friends and I do.

And like many times when I’m with my friends, we just enjoyed spending time together and we didn’t need to do anything crazy. Most of the time I was there, I was just talking with my friends about various things. One of the friends in our group just moved back to LA so we were talking about their job hunt and move. We also occasionally would glance at the tv and joke about how we all must be old because we didn’t recognize the different performances going on. There was also some karaoke happening, but I don’t usually join in for that since I don’t sing. But I do love seeing my friends having fun.

Once it was closer to midnight, we started to play a new card game my friends got for Christmas. It was called Taco Cat Goat Cheese Pizza and it was really fun! There were some moments when we were all confused about a rule, but most of the time we were playing we were laughing and making fun of each other for some of the silly mistakes we made. I was shocked that I did well in the game, but I ended up not winning in the end. But that’s ok.

I was a bit tired while I was there and there were moments when I wondered if I would have to leave before midnight. I knew I didn’t want to drive if I was tired, especially in the rain. But after the game was over, it was only a few more minutes until midnight so I managed to stay late enough. And when it officially became 2023, we all celebrated together. A lot of people in our friend group have had a rough year (or a few years) and we could celebrate making it through another year and still all of us being in pretty good health.

Only a few minutes after midnight, I decided to head back home. There was a bit of a break in the rain so I wanted to drive before the next storm started. And I never like staying too late since I’m less likely to be on the road with a drunk driver right after midnight compared to an hour or two later. Maybe one year I’ll stay later, but I don’t mind leaving earlier than many of the others since I do have one of the longer drives home.

Once I was home, I realized I took no photos while I was at the party. Usually, I’ll take at least a few, but I guess I was more focused on spending time with my friends and enjoying the moment. So that’s ok with me. Even without photos, I know I had a nice New Year’s Eve and I have fun memories from that night. And I’m sure that in a year, I’ll be doing the same thing again with another low-key night and enjoying it just as much.

Still Setting Myself Up For A Good Year (or Transitioning From One Monthly Challenge To Another)

My monthly challenge last month was to do what I needed to do in order to have a good 2023. This involved several different things, but the main ones I focused on were around setting up my living space for success. This included going through my clothes to see what I could get rid of and going through my kitchen to take an inventory and make sure I don’t have anything expired.

I know this wasn’t too crazy of a monthly challenge, but I’m glad I did it because sometimes the simplest things are the things you seem to put off the most. I really needed to do these things and I’m happy I had a push to do them. Even though I went through a lot of my clothes when I moved, there were still so many things I didn’t need and were taking up space. Since I want to redo my closet and I’m looking for a new dresser, getting rid of things I don’t need will help me figure out how to set up my clothing storage. And going through the stuff in my kitchen was very helpful too. Since I’m trying to cook more, I really don’t want to think I have a spice in my cabinet only to discover when I’m about to use it that it’s expired. I know that not all expired spices are bad, but I don’t want to use something that could make the food I make taste off. I still have more that I want to go through in my kitchen since I know that I have other things that may have gone bad, but at least I got through the things I’m expecting to use more frequently.

After getting some things set up for the new year, I wanted to continue that trend with my monthly challenge for January. This is a variation of something I’ve done before, but my challenge this month is to create a good weekly schedule for myself to get certain things done. What this means to me is to create a schedule that will help me figure out when I should do certain weekly errands, what days might be best for different cleaning tasks, and what days are best to try to cook. I know that doing this will help me not only stay on top of the regular things I need to get done, but it will make it easier for me to find where I do have free time to do other things.

The only regular task I’m good about doing on a schedule is doing laundry. I used to do laundry every Sunday, but now I do it every Saturday. I rarely have to do laundry other times, but now that I have my own washer and dryer I do sometimes do non-clothing laundry on other days. But having that routine makes things easy since I don’t have to think too much about when I can set aside time to make sure I have clean clothes each week. But I want to feel that way about other things that need to be done regularly like vacuuming and mopping. I know for some things like cleaning my bathroom and dusting, need to be done more frequently so it might not be as easy to schedule.

And in the same way, knowing what days I have free time after work to cook will help me plan what to make and what groceries to get each week. I also like knowing when I’ll have leftovers so I have easy things to make for lunch or get ready for dinner. I don’t always plan out leftovers well when I have them, but this will almost be a way to do some meal planning with less effort. If I know I’m cooking on a Monday and will have 3 meals of leftovers, I will know when I need to cook again or when I might have to have something easy to make. I also can use this planning to start stocking up my freezer with leftovers again, which I haven’t done much since I moved. All of this will help me not feel like ordering food because I should have options available for me.

I’m not sure if there are other things I want to figure out for a weekly schedule, but I feel like these are good things to start with. And as this month goes on, I guess I’ll see how it goes and if it works out to do this idea with more in my life. The more that I can get into a routine where I don’t need to think too much about it, the better.

My Word for 2023 (or I’m Ready)

I try to put a lot of thought into the word that I pick for my word of the year. I want to pick something that really does represent something to me and what I’m trying to achieve, but it also can’t be too specific. For a while, I was also getting a bracelet with the word I picked each year so I tried to limit what I was considering as my word to what was available from that store.

In some ways, having that limitation was good because it made me focus on only a certain number of options. But as I’ve had more and more words of the year, that has also limited me in what works. And over the past few years, I haven’t worn the bracelet (or ring like I got last year) when I’m out so that didn’t seem like a good way to pick something anymore. So when I was thinking of what I wanted my word to be this year, I didn’t have any restrictions and I allowed myself more time to think about it so I could be really sure of my choice.

There were several options that I went back and forth on because they all represented different aspects of things I wanted to see in 2023. But I think I finally found the perfect word to not only represent this year but what I have done in the past. And that’s why I chose my word for 2023 to be Ready.

I feel like this is exactly what I want to use as a guideline for what I do this year. I have spent a lot of time working on myself in different ways and I am ready to see what comes next or what I can accomplish. And I am ready for so many different things in my life to happen.

I’m ready to see changes come in my physical health this year. I’ve been doing a lot to work on different parts of my health, but I think that things will go to a new level this year with all my various health concerns. I also feel like I’m ready to take steps to improve upon what I’ve been doing at Orangetheory. I know I have a lot of struggles because I have so many bad weeks, so I haven’t made a lot of improvements with what I can do. But I want to try to track things better and really see some improvement this year.

I’m ready to put myself out there more, both in dating and my social life in general. I do still want to be cautious because Covid is not over and there are other things to worry about, but I want to stop allowing other fears to stop me. I won’t put myself in situations that feel dangerous or that don’t sit right with me, but I also want to accept and say yes to offers that maybe I’m not 100% sure about. I need to take more risks and I think I’m ready to do that.

And I feel like I’m ready to see what happens with my job. I have made a lot of changes with my work situation the past few years, but especially this past year. And I want to continue to see how I can make my job the best situation possible. I want to stop worrying if I can do something if I’m asked because I know they are asking because they believe in me. I remember reading something about how typically women will not apply for a promotion or accept more responsibility unless they know they can do that work. But men typically will apply or accept something greater if they believe they can do it. I want to switch my mindset from needing to know to believing I can.

There are other things that I think I’m ready for in my life and I just have to be open to what comes my way. I know not everything will be positive and that there will be some setbacks, but I also know the work I have been doing on my own and that I really am ready to take a lot of forward steps in my life this year.