Monthly Archives: September 2019

Getting Ready For The Dri-Tri (or Working My Way Through The Workouts)

I knew 2 things going into this past week of workouts. First, I would still be dealing with nausea and pain and I know how much that affects my workouts. And second, I was going to be doing the DriTri on Saturday. The Dri-Tri is going to be a separate post because I have a lot of say about how that went. But for my regular workouts, I knew that I had to find a balance of getting ready for how intense the Dri-Tri is and taking it easy so I’m not too tired by Saturday. The nausea actually helped me balance that since the days I was feeling the worst had to be easy days.

Monday’s workout was a power day, and it was the worst nausea day of the week.  I’m glad it was a power day because I knew things wouldn’t be as long and there would be more opportunities to have a bit of a break.

For cardio, we had 3 blocks that all had the same pattern. We had a push pace, an all-out, a walking recovery, a push pace, a base pace, and an all-out to finish the block. The times of each interval switched up between the blocks but having the same pattern was helpful. I did play around with the resistance levels on the bike for the long push and all-outs, but when the intervals were shorter I just focused on pedaling faster.

On the floor, we had 2 blocks. The first block had pullovers with weights, sit-ups to squats, lateral raises with weights, and bench hop overs. After doing one round of the exercises, we also had a 200-meter row. I tried to go a bit heavy with the weights even though it was a power day because I wanted to make up for what I couldn’t do on the bike. And when I had the 200-meter row, I ended up being pretty slow. The second block had single-arm weighted work, plank low rows with weights, and squats. There was also supposed to be a 200-meter row at the end of each round, but because I was struggling by that point I skipped the row.

Wednesday’s workout was an endurance day. I was finally starting to feel better so I was able to do more than I could on Monday. The cardio block was one long block that had rounds of push paces with base paces after. All of the base paces were 1 minute, but the push paces increased every round. We started with a 30-second push and went all the way up to a 3-minute push. And the cardio ended with an all-out. I was feeling really good during the cardio block and it helped me feel a bit more confident about the bike portion of the Dri-Tri.

The rowing was a single block. We started with a 500-meter row and then we had squats with front raises using the medicine ball. We repeated it with a 300-meter and 100-meter row. Then we went back up the rows with 100, 300, and 500-meter rows.

And the floor was 1 block but it had 3 mini-blocks within it. Each mini-block was supposed to be done 3 times before moving on to the next mini-block. The first mini-block had bicep curls and skier swings. The second mini-block had lateral raises and hip hinge swings. And the last mini-block had lunges and hip hinge high rows. All of the exercises were with weights, but I wasn’t going too heavy because it was a lot of work and a lot of reps.

Friday’s workout was a power day and it was my last workout before the Dri-Tri so I knew I had to make sure I didn’t go too hard. Power days are easy to push myself, but if I did that then my Dri-Tri would suffer. And I was finally not feeling nauseous so I was optimistic that I wouldn’t be nauseous for the Dri-Tri, which I was afraid of.

Cardio had 2 blocks with similar formats. We had a push pace, base pace, all-out, walking recovery, and then 2 more all-outs with walking recoveries. The first block had 1-minute intervals and the second block had 30-second intervals. I did work with the resistance levels for the first block but skipped them on the second to focus on pedaling faster. I knew with the Dri-Tri that I wouldn’t be using the resistance levels so fast pedaling was important to work on.

The rowing was also 2 blocks. The first block started with a 200-meter row and then we were supposed to do lunges with medicine ball raises, but I modified those to be squats with medicine ball raises. Then we had a 150 and 100-meter rows with the same exercise between each row. The second block was timed rows with the same exercise, but I wanted to get some extra rowing time in to be ready for the next day. So I just rowed as long as I could without breaks for that block. I was feeling discouraged because I wasn’t able to row that long without a break, but I tried to remember that in the Dri-Tri the rowing would be the first thing and I wouldn’t be tired from the bike.

And the floor also had 2 blocks. The first block had deadlifts, reverse lunges to hops (which I modified by using the straps), hamstring curls (which I switched to hip bridges), and rollouts on the ab dolly. The second block had lateral lunges, skater lunges, and knee tucks on the ab dolly. I could have gone heavier with the weights, but just like everything else for that workout, I was trying to go easy so I wouldn’t be tired the next day.

Even though I had some struggles with my workout week last week, I think I worked through them the best that I could and they even might have benefitted me. I didn’t overdo things before the Dri-Tri, but I felt like I got a lot of good work done that prepared me for it. I still had a little hesitation about how I would do with the Dri-Tri, but I felt as prepared as ever for it. And I’ll share how it went on here tomorrow.

Staying Calm With Changes (or Testing My Fear Of The Dentist)

It has taken a long time, but I finally am at a point where I don’t fear the dentist as much as I used to. I still have a fear of the dentist and it makes me panic a bit, but it is nothing like what it was just a few years ago. I’ve had better appointments in the recent past which helped, but I think it is also due to something in my brain chemistry changing that has helped.

For a while, my dentist appointments have been very consistent with the care I was getting as well as the people that I saw. Then, the last time I was there, I discovered that my dentist retired and 2 new dentists took over the office. This caused me to have a bit of panic, but it ended up working out well for me. The new dentists were very understanding with my fear and they were willing to work with me and try to make things easy.

While having new dentists was a big change, since I only see the dentist every 3rd appointment, it wasn’t too bad. As long as my dental hygenist was still there, I was happy. I used to joke to her that I would switch offices if she ever left because she really does work hard to make my panic attacks as minor as possible. But she said she had no plans to leave so I didn’t worry about it.

Then this week, I went to the dentist. My appointment was on Monday and it was just going to be for a cleaning so I would see the hygienist and not the dentist. Things were running a little late, but that wasn’t a big deal. Then one of the dentists came out and said she would get to me as soon as possible. I was so confused since I wasn’t going to be seeing the dentist for a cleaning. And that’s when I discovered that the hygienist was no longer at the office. I couldn’t follow her to another office because she switched careers. I am glad she is going to do something that she has always wanted to do, but I was sad that it was another change and it was causing me to panic a bit.

I ended up having to reschedule my appointment to yesterday because of how late things were running. And while I tried not to think about things, I spent a few days panicking that things were not going to be good at my appointment. I knew the new dentists were very understanding and they said they would work with me and my fear during the cleaning, but I have gotten so used to having my routine and not needing to worry too much. I knew that there was a good chance my appointment was going to be harder than the past few cleanings, but I also knew that I would be fine and that my fear and feeling of panic wasn’t a sign of things to come.

I’m aware that I’m a bit of a pain in the butt at the dentist. It’s not easy to have a patient who is scared and it took a long time to get comfortable with the hygienist who I had been seeing. Fortunately, things went much better than I expected.

I discussed with the dentist about how things had been done in the past to help my fear. And she did explain why those might not have been the best choices. I was willing to take a chance and try her plan, but I asked her to modify a few things. For example, I wanted her to confirm that my teeth were fine and there was nothing she saw that looked concerning. I don’t think that’s a normal part of the cleaning, but I really needed to hear that in order to feel better. And once that part was done, things were easier on me.

The only hard part was not knowing how much longer I had in the appointment since things were being done in a different order. Thankfully, the dentist was very understanding and answered all my questions and explained where we were in the appointment at each step. I kept apologizing for asking a million things, but I don’t think she minded. She was saying that it’s better that I’m aware of what’s going on and making sure I take care of my teeth instead of letting my fear take over and keep me away.

The appointment was a bit longer than I’m used to, but I think that was because the dentist and I had to work together to figure out how to make the appointment the best for me. But in the end, it all worked out for me and I didn’t have any panic attacks while there. My nerves were still affecting me, but that’s something that I don’t think will ever go away. And hopefully, when I go back in 4 months it will get a little easier for me.

So Much Entertainment So Little Time (or Scheduling Leisure Time)

I have written in the past about how I try to watch at least 1 episode of every show on tv. That used to be a much easier task. While there were a lot of new shows at the beginning of the fall tv season, it was a limited time and I was able to work through all the shows. Now, while the beginning of the fall tv season is when most of the new shows start, it’s not just happening then. And even the time that new shows premiere in the fall is longer. It seems like every week there is something new to watch and it’s becoming harder to stay on top of things.

This year, I think things got crazier for me because my schedule has been busy. I’ve had a lot of other time commitments and other things I go to in the evening. So I’m not home as much to watch tv and I don’t necessarily have time to watch shows between customers as I have before. I know this is a really stupid problem, but it is a problem when I have a way that I prepare for things that I’m used to.

The new tv season really started this week, so there have only been a few days of new shows. But I already feel very behind. I haven’t watched any new shows yet and some of the shows that I watch regularly are still sitting on my DVR. There are some shows that are more of a priority for me to watch the night they come out, so it is helping me decide if there are shows that I might want to stop watching. If I don’t care enough to watch them right away, I probably could just wait until I don’t have other things to watch and catch up on Hulu or Netflix. I do have a bit of hesitation to delete series recordings, but I’m working on being ok with that and not following shows the way I used to.

But it’s not just tv that I’m not catching up on. I love to read and I take advantage of e-books from the library for my Kindle all the time. It’s really helped me cut back on spending because I rarely buy books anymore (but I do recommend that my library buys them so I feel like I’m still supporting authors a bit). I put lots of books on hold because they usually don’t become available all at once. Until they did last week. 6 books I had on hold were available and I downloaded them all because I wanted to see if I could read at least a majority of them. But I don’t know if I’ll have time to read 6 books in 3 weeks.

If it was only the tv scheduling or reading scheduling, I think I could get it all done. But I have to decide what I will do in the evening when I have free time: read or catch up on tv. I’ve been trying to find the balance to do both, but I know it’s not really possible. Every day that I’ve tried to do both I usually don’t really get much of either done or I fall asleep reading or watching tv and then have to pay attention to it a second time.

So I’ve been working on scheduling my tv time and reading time so I set aside the time to do it and not have other things I have to work on. I’m aware how stupid this probably sounds, but since I view watching tv as research, it’s important that I set aside time for it. And while I don’t have to read, it is something that makes me really happy and I feel off when I don’t read at least a little bit each day. And scheduling my entertainment time also makes me find time to relax and not do other work things. It’s so easy for me to not stop working since I work at home. I need to remember to stop work at some point and focus on something else. So scheduling fun time is helping.

I know that once I catch up with the new tv shows and with my library books, there will be more shows to watch and books to read. But hopefully it won’t all come at me at one time so I can spend more time with each thing. But for now, I just have to schedule things so I can get through them and make sure I feel prepared for any auditions I might get for new tv shows and get through at least some of my library books.

It Doesn’t Take Much To Upgrade A Space (or A Multi-Day Furniture Build)

The furniture I have in my house has been mine for a long time. Many pieces were either hand-me-downs or they were things I “inherited” when an old roommate left them at my old apartment. Most of the things I have are things that I brought with me from my old place to my current house, so I’ve had them for at least 10 years. And while most of the pieces I have are in great condition and I have no plans to replace them, I’ve also tried to start upgrading things bit by bit as I could.

The setup I had for my TV was something I had for a very long time. The DVD towers were something I purchased when I lived in my old apartment. And the TV stand was a cabinet that an old roommate purchased that we used in the entryway of my old apartment. When I moved into my house, I took the doors off of the cabinet and my dad helped me cut the back so the cables had a place to go. It’s worked for a while, but it felt flimsy and I have been wanting to get something nicer for a while.

The problem with wanting something nicer is that they usually cost a lot of money, and I didn’t have that. But when my parents were in town, my mom and I did some online shopping to see what we could find. We also discovered that a lot of TV stands were very low to the ground because most people have huge TVs.  I don’t and I needed something taller. We did a lot of searching online and finally found the perfect thing that also happened to be on clearance. It wouldn’t be delivered until after my parents left, but I’ve put together lots of furniture before so I knew I could it.

When the box arrived, it was huge! It was almost taller than me and it weighed a ton! Getting the box into my house took forever and it probably looked pretty funny. And once I got the box in my house and open, it took up a big chunk of my living room.

I asked a few friends if they could come over to help me, and my friend Andie was able to. But the night before she came over, I decided to work on unpacking the box and trying to put together what I could. A lot of pieces were huge, but there were little things I could do like building the drawers and putting handles on things. When I went to bed, my house felt like a huge disaster.

When Andie came over, I was hoping we would be able to put things together quickly because I had done a lot of the work ahead of time. I was wrong. Some of the issues we had were because the pieces weren’t fitting together perfectly. We were able to make them fit, but sometimes it took a little bit of force (and once it took my rubber mallet). Andie helped me for a few hours, but she had something she had to do that evening so I was finishing things up on my own. And then I hit what would be the biggest setback for building the cabinet.

For some reason, I couldn’t get the drawers to go in. I know I was exhausted, tired of working on the cabinet, and needed to eat some dinner; but I wanted to get this done. I FaceTimed my dad and he was trying to help me figure it out too. Neither of us could figure out the instructions or how they were supposed to work. I’m sure if my dad was here, he could have done it. But virtual help didn’t help me. I eventually went to bed with the drawers on the ground and decided to work on it the next day.

In the morning, my friend Dani came over because I was giving her my DVD towers. She needed something for her house and I was so happy that I was able to find someone who could use them (another friend needed the TV cabinet and I gave it to her). When Dani was over, she was checking out the new cabinet and I was telling her about the disaster of putting it together. And I explained that I couldn’t get the drawers to work and gave up on them.

Well, Dani must be a miracle worker because it only took her a minute or two and she had it figured out! I was ready to cry from happiness that she helped me because I didn’t want to work on building the cabinet for more than 3 days (seriously, 3 days was long enough). And once it was done, I could finally start organizing things and deciding how I’m going to decorate the space. Right now, I’m still playing around with what I’ll do, but this is what it looks like.

I think it’s a huge improvement over what I had before and it makes the space look so much bigger and nicer!

And even though I spent 3 days building it, I was ready the next day to build another thing. I had a replacement for my defective desk chair on the way and it arrived. I got the box inside, opened it up, and realized they only sent me about 25% of the parts needed. It was so bizarre that it was funny. They only sent me the wheels, bottom cushion, and armrests. No base, no back, no hardware to attach things. I honestly couldn’t believe it.

I did call the company that sent me the chair and asked if there was another box coming, and they said everything should have been in that one box. So they sent me another box with the rest of it. That hasn’t arrived yet, but as soon as it gets here I’ll be building something else. I’m tired of sitting on my dining room chair for 8 hours because they aren’t the most comfortable chairs for multiple hours. But I guess it did give me a break between crazy furniture builds and hopefully once the rest of the chair arrives I’ll be ready to build it and be done!

Observing a Board Meeting (or Finding A New Goal)

When I was running for delegate and local board in the union election, I really didn’t know if I’d be elected to the local board. I was hoping that I would, but I also knew that realistically I probably wouldn’t. I’m a bit sad that I didn’t win the local board seat, but I was prepared for that loss. I’m still very excited that I was elected as a delegate again and can’t wait to get to work at the convention. But it’s still a loss of an election and I want to do what I can over the next 2 years to try to be in a better position to win a local board seat if I have the opportunity to run for it again.

I know a lot of the elections are about who knows you and that’s why many celebrities run and get elected. Some of them do give up their seats after that to someone who doesn’t have a name, but I’m proud that the more famous people on my slate that ran did so with the intention to serve. We did have someone who had to give up their seat because they were cast in a show, but that’s not something they knew when they were running. But there are other ways to be elected besides being famous. And that’s by participating in the union so others are aware of who you are and what you have done.

I have submitted my requests to be on both national and local committees, but I’m not in control of getting on those committees. So I have been looking at things I can do that are in my control and one of those things is going to as many local board meetings as possible and being an observer.

I have been an observer in the past, but those times have usually been when it was combined with convention orientation. I have been an observer once or twice outside of those combination meetings, but I haven’t been dedicated to doing so. There have been times that my work hours prevented me from going, but I don’t have that excuse anymore. So when there was a local board meeting this past week, I made sure to register to observe it and to keep my schedule clear so I could attend.

Because of confidentiality and other policies, I can’t say too much about specifics of what happened in the boardroom. But I can share some general things. I have to say it was a very different type of meeting than I have been to before. I did see a lot of partisan things happening in the room, and that wasn’t fun to see. I watched behavior that I wasn’t happy with. And I watched things happen that people claimed happened a different way. And while I was in the room watching the meeting, I realized how important it is for all members to observe these meetings.

The Los Angeles local board meetings are open to any paid-up member of SAG-AFTRA. I know that many members aren’t aware of that or have taken advantage of that. It’s so important to see what happens in the room so that people see the truth behind some of the campaign statements. I don’t know why I haven’t seen this until now, but I have been told by many members that this was the first meeting that they ever had been to that was like this. So maybe witnessing what happens wasn’t as important back then as it is now. But it always has been important and I now understand that.

So while I have made it a goal to attend as many board meetings as I can for my own benefit, I realized that my purpose is to do so much more than that. I want to spend the next 2 years getting as many members as I can to these meetings. It is so important to be an informed union member and going to these meetings is a great way to do that. Hopefully, after seeing union politics in person, members will be more motivated to vote or to encourage other members to vote. I would love to get our turnout to be much higher, and this could be just the thing to do that.

So if you are a SAG-AFTRA member in Los Angeles, please join me for a local board meeting. The next one is November 4th, but they are announced via email so you should be paying attention to the emails we get. It’s easy to register because you just have to send in an email. And you don’t have to do anything at the meeting but observe. You aren’t allowed to speak up, which can be frustrating when watching, but it also takes the pressure off of what responsibilities you have in the room.

Working Through My Workout Week (or At Least I Knew This Was Coming)

This past week of workouts wasn’t a great one for me. I knew it was potentially going to be bad because of my pain and nausea, and that’s what happened. But I’ve got the DriTri coming up and I want to be as prepared for it as I can be. So I just had to work through how I was feeling and do my best.

Monday’s workout was a partner workout. We had a total of 4 blocks, and 2 of them were partnered ones. It was a good partner day, and I thought it was a good variety for the workout.

For both partner blocks, the rower set the pace and switching. For the first block, the rower rowed 200 meters and then they switched with the partner using cardio. We did that for 10 minutes and didn’t reset the rower the entire time. For the second partner block, the rower rowed for 1 minute before switching. Again, for the full 10 minutes, we didn’t reset the rower. The goal was to try to get more meters rowed in the second block than in the first. My partner and I didn’t quite make it, but we were close.

There was also a regular cardio and regular floor block. For cardio, it was rounds of push to base paces. We started with a 3-minute push and it went down 1 minute each time. The base paces were 1 minute every time. And at the end of the block, we had a 1 minute all out. And on the floor, we had step ups, shoulder presses, and mountain climbers. The regular blocks were a nice break from the constant switching during the partner blocks.

Wednesday’s workout was a strength day. It was also a switch day and we had 2 blocks at each section of the room. I was starting to deal with nausea so it made things a little tough for me. But it did help that it was a switch day so I had a few extra breaks.

Cardio was a lot of hill work. Both blocks were the same. We started with a 1-minute hill, then a 90-second hill, and ended with a 2-minute hill. Between each hill segment we had 45 seconds to recover at a flat incline. I did play around with the resistance levels on the bike, but I didn’t go as high as I would have gone if I was feeling ok. But I still did more than I would have done if we didn’t have hill work.

On the rower, the first block was distance rows with medicine ball squats. We had a 100-meter row, 300-meter row, and 450-meter row. I just got through those when the block ended. And the second block was timed with cardio with doing the rows while the treadmills were doing the hill work and then we were supposed to do the medicine ball squats again while cardio had their recoveries. But I was feeling pretty rotten by that second block so I skipped the squats and just did recovery rowing.

And on the floor, we had a block of upper body work and a block of lower body work. The upper body work block had chest flys, chest presses, and single arm low rows using the weights. And the lower body work block had deadlifts, sumo squats, and plank reaches. I tried to go heavy with the weights as much as I could, but for the upper body work I had to go down to lighter weights because my arms were feeling oddly weak.

Friday’s workout was a benchmark class. We had the 12-minute run/bike for distance. I knew going into the class that I wasn’t going to break a record because my nausea was hitting me really hard. I had a goal idea in my head, but I also set it very low because I knew it would be tough.

My plan for the 12 minute distance challenge was to try to use my usual push resistance level on the bike as long as I could. I only lasted about a minute before I went down to my base resistance level. I was able to stay at my base level the rest of the time and never had to go below that. And I tried to do little intervals of pedaling harder when I wasn’t feeling too sick. That plan ended up working out because I did go further than my goal distance which was nice. I was still pretty far off from my past benchmark distances, but I tried to remember that those were done when I was feeling better.

The rowing block was supposed to be rounds of rowing with either frogger squats or lunges between each row. I don’t usually do the lunges during the rowing blocks and I didn’t feel like doing squats as those have been making my nausea worse lately. So I just spent the entire block rowing and taking breaks when I needed to. It wasn’t my best rowing block (and I’ve got the Dri-Tri soon so that worried me), but I had to keep reminding myself that I was not feeling like myself and I had to go easy.

And on the floor, we had 1 long block. We had bicep curls while balancing on one leg, weighted double crunches, push up to knee tucks on the ab dolly, roll outs on the ab dolly, single arm low rows, and triceps on the straps. I had to make a few modifications with the work. I did the push ups with my hands on the bench and did mountain climbers instead of knee tucks, I did the roll outs on the straps, and I did both arms for the low rows together because my balance was feeling off. I don’t love that I had so many modifications, but at least they felt like they weren’t too off from what we were supposed to do.

Saturday’s workout was an endurance day, and it was designed to be almost like a prep for the Dri-Tri. When the coach asked how many of us were doing the Dri-Tri, I was the only one who said they were doing it. It was pretty funny to see I’m the only one going for it from that class, but I was extra appreciative of the prep class.

Because I wasn’t feeling great, I was cautious about the workout. For cardio, we had 3 blocks that had the same pattern. We had a push pace, base pace, push pace, and all out. The second push pace got longer each block. I was using the resistance levels on the bike, but when we had the all outs I just kept it at my push level and worked on pedaling faster. I had to take breaks from time to time during each block, but I tried my best to push through them because I know I need my endurance to be up a bit for the long bike ride that I’ll have for the Dri-Tri.

On the rower, we were supposed to have long rows and then jumping jacks. I knew that I wouldn’t be able to do jumping jacks (I barely can do them when I’m feeling great), so I spend the entire block just rowing. I took breaks when I needed to and I needed to do it a lot. I was having some horrible waves of nausea on the rower and it was getting pretty bad. But I did stick it out and got a lot of rowing practice in.

And on the floor, we had all body weight work. A lot of it was supposed to be done while standing on the bench, and I had to modify them to be done on the floor. With my modifications I had single leg bench sit to stands, single leg reverse lunges while using the straps for balance, lunges with high knees while using the straps for balance, and scissor kick crunches. Just like on the rower, I needed a lot of breaks, but I made it work.

This week, I have the Dri-Tri at the end of the week. Hopefully, my nausea will be done by then, but I know there’s a bit of a chance that it won’t be. But I just have to hope for the best and see what I can do.

Another Annual Appointment (or At Least I’m Getting Used To These)

I’ve written about having to get mammograms before on here. I’ve been doing them for several years now and it has become routine. There is a bit of debate with my doctor if I do really need to do them each year, but if they are questioning it I’m fine with doing them. Fortunately, they are free so I don’t have to worry about paying for them. And I know that there is a higher risk of getting a false positive with doing them when I might need them, but that’s a better option than not catching something.

But I’m also not expecting to get bad results from them. If my mom’s cancer is genetic (which is still a possibility), the type of breast cancer she had is not caught on mammograms. It also would likely be post-menopausal so I am not in the phase of life that it’s a higher possibility. But I know that my insurance doesn’t really see that information and just that I have a mother who had breast cancer.

I wasn’t sure if anything would be different this time since it would be my first mammogram since I was considered high risk for breast cancer. But I was prepared for some changes and went into the appointment curious to see what would happen.

As usual, I had to wait a bit for my turn, but it wasn’t too bad of a wait. And then I was faced with the infamous mammogram machine.

The only differences I noticed this time at my appointment were some of the questions they asked before they started. They wanted to have some more information on my mom’s cancer and when she was diagnosed. All easy things for me to answer since I have had to share that information a few times lately. They also wanted to clarify all the cancer screenings I have done before and wanted to know if I’d be doing an MRI this year too. Even though I have been approved for annual MRIs, I don’t plan on doing them that often unless something changes and my doctor or the geneticist recommends that.

After the questions, it was time to get this done. I don’t think anyone really likes getting mammograms, but they aren’t the worst either. I think some of the pain I experience is more the anticipation of pain and not actual pain. It’s not painless, but I would describe it as more uncomfortable than anything. I experience a bit more pain than other people I know because I bruise easily, but that’s just a me problem.

And while I haven’t had a bad technician do my mammograms before, I have to say the woman who did my mammogram this time was extra awesome. She understood how uncomfortable this is and really tried to make it easier for me. When something didn’t feel right or the machine was pinching me, we worked together to try to place everything in a different way so it wouldn’t hurt. And once we got everything right, she ran to press the button so it would release quickly. I really appreciated her wanting to make this easier on me and taking the time and extra steps that she did.

There have been times where the images weren’t clear enough and they had to do them again, but this time all 4 images came out perfect the first time they took them. So it was easy and quick and I was out of there in no time.

I was told all the standard things like how it can take a few weeks to get the results back, but I’m not worried about it at all. These screenings are just preventative and what I do as an extra precaution and not because I’m worried they will find something. And if they did contact me saying there was something suspicious, I know that there are lots of things that can look odd that have nothing to do with breast cancer. So I’m not too concerned about how long the results will take or what they will say.

I know the first time I had a mammogram, it was so much more stressful waiting on the results and making sure I was fine. I had a similar feeling when I did the MRI the first time. But now, at least mammograms are feeling normal and routine and I don’t worry about them. Just like I don’t worry about what my cholesterol or other annual blood tests say. I’m glad that these are becoming less stressful since they will be something I have to do for a long time. I don’t know if I will be getting another mammogram next year, but at least it’s good to know that if I do have to do it in another year that they seem to be getting easier.

Finally Having Our Brunch (or Almost All The Mentees Together Again)

I am the one who organizes the meetings/brunches for my mentoring group. I used to be very on top of organizing them, but as the years have gone on I have gotten a bit worse at coordinating. Fortunately, the group understands that things come up and that’s why we have stopped doing our brunches every other month and now try to do them 3 or 4 times a year. But I still feel a bit guilty when our brunches are overdue and I haven’t been able to coordinate it.

This time, the brunch would have happened right in the middle of the election, so I knew it was going to have to be pushed back. Everyone else had conflicts in August, so that delay was for the best. When we were trying to figure out what dates would work in September, there was one date that seemed to work for almost all of us. So it was easy to pick which date we would end up meeting. We ended up having 5 out of the 6 people in our group there that day.

We went to our usual brunch place, Rush St., which has been a good place for us to meet over the years. But it is a sports bar/restaurant, and since it is football season there were a lot of people inside watching the game. We had a reservation for the group and they were able to seat us on the patio, so it was much quieter for us. We usually sit outside, so it was also a nice change from our routine and we got to enjoy the nice day we were having.

As our meetings usually go, we all went around and took turns sharing what we had been up to since our last meeting. Since it had been a while, we all had a lot to share. We don’t always share work-related things as the group has become close friends. But a lot of things we shared were about our careers. And as always, I was so inspired hearing what everyone else had been up to. It’s so interesting to be able to watch someone’s career grow over the years and see what is behind the idea of an overnight success story.

When it was my turn, I mainly shared things about the election. Since most of the group are not actors, they weren’t seeing the stories that I had been seeing every day. So I also filled them in on some of the crazy things that happened as well. I think they were all pretty shocked about how things went and the stories that came out. But at least now being past the election things are a bit funnier and not as stressful for me. I also shared about the little things I had been doing for my career, but they all understood that the election dominated my time and I hadn’t had time to do much else.

Even with all the things we had to share among the group, we still had plenty of time to be silly and socialize. And I think we have found a great way to balance out the point of these meetings and making them more of a hangout. Once we finished going over our individual updates, it just naturally turns into a hangout and it’s so nice that we can do that. And sometimes someone will add a career update or ask for advice while we are doing more socializing, but that’s fine. We have reached a comfort level with each other that we don’t have to feel as strict with how our meetings go. When we started out, we also have more people and we had to make sure that the meetings didn’t last for hours. Now with only 6 of us in the group, it’s easier.

We ended up being at brunch for longer than expected, but I think we all missed each other and we wanted to take advantage of being together. And to have 5 of us at the meeting is hard to coordinate so we wanted to make sure we spent time together. Maybe one day we will be able to figure out a day and time that works out for all of us, but with everyone having such busy lives it’s not easy. But we try our best to make it and it makes me so happy to see everyone else being as committed to maintaining these meetings as I am.

At the rate we’ve been going, I don’t know if we’ll have another brunch before the end of the year. Maybe we could figure something out in December, but it’s so hard with the holidays. So if this is the last mentee meeting of the year, we ended on a high note. And if we have one more, I know it will be just as great as this meeting was.

Another Night At The Bowl (or My Parents Got To Rock Out)

The timing for my parents’ trip was determined by a few things. First, they had hotel reservations in Catalina so I knew they’d be coming to LA either before they went to Catalina or after. But my parents and I also wanted to try to find a show at the Bowl that we could go to together. We had a lot of fun when we saw the Beatles celebration there, and we wanted to see another show. We had been trying for a few years to find a show that worked with their schedule that they wanted to see, but nothing was working until this season.

As soon as the Bowl announced their season, I shared it with my parents so they could pick out what looked good and what they would want to see. I had a few things that I suggested could be fun, but I wanted my parents to pick what they wanted and not just go to something that I thought they would enjoy. And when we looked at the season this year, my parents knew exactly what looked good to them: Earth, Wind & Fire.

I had heard of the band before, but since I’m not a big music person I don’t always know what songs are done by which bands. But it looked like it would be a fun show, plus it was going to have fireworks. And I knew that at the show I would recognize songs even if I didn’t know they were their songs before seeing them.

I tried to get us box seats for the Bowl so we could have an extra special evening, but I think because there were fireworks with the show, a lot of people wanted tickets. I was in the virtual line online hours before they went on sale, but I still couldn’t get us a box. But I did get us seats that were closer than I normally sit and we figured we could eat at our seats or try to find a picnic area.

On the day of the show, my dad and I worked out in the morning and then I had work. While I was working, my parents came over for a while because they were going to help me with a few things. My parents got me a Ring doorbell camera for my birthday (I have been wanting one) so my dad and I had to install it. And there were a few other small house projects for us to work on, but nothing too crazy. My parents left before I was done with work and we decided we were going to get food from Tender Greens to bring with us to the show.

We dealt with more rush hour traffic while on the Bowl Bus, but we were at the Bowl with plenty of time to eat before the show started. We didn’t luck out finding a picnic spot, so we went to our seats and ate there. Since we were early enough, the other people in our row weren’t there so we were able to spread out a bit. And since we were just eating salads, it wasn’t too hard to eat at the seats.

After eating, we waited for showtime. We had much better seats than we had when we went for the show before (when they were slightly obstructed seats). This time, we were more centered than before and had a great view of the stage.

The show was sold out so our row started to fill in before the show. Not everyone got there before the show started, and we were seated at the end of the row, so for the first part of the show, we were getting up and down a bit. A lot of the people seated around us were standing for the show, but we stayed seated (I was tired) and we could still see the stage and the large video screens so it was fine.

And as I expected, for a majority of the songs that they played I recognized them once they started playing. I knew them from various movies or random snippits I’ve heard on the radio but I just didn’t know who the band was. That’s how most concerts are for me and it’s always a fun surprise when I learn that a band I’m seeing is behind songs that I’ve randomly known for years.

But my parents knew all of the songs and they seemed very excited every time a new song started. I haven’t been to many concerts with them, so I’ve never seen them really get into a show. But there is no question they were into this show. I had a great time watching them have a great time. That might have been better for me than enjoying the show myself. My parents worked so hard and I love seeing them get to enjoy retirement. And their retirement has been them getting to do so much and discover new things they are into. They have done so many adventures since my dad retired and I am glad I got to be a small part of their adventure this time.

And, as I said, this was a show with fireworks. It’s rare to get to see fireworks at a show, but it is so spectacular.

When the show was done, we headed back to the bus and were able to get on one without having to wait. The drive back was much easier than the drive there, and I was glad we were back sooner because it had been a very full day. I was tired and I had an early morning the next morning. But the show was the end to my parents visiting me so it was a little bit of a downer. I will see them again in a little over 2 months for Thanksgiving, so that’s not too far from now.

Considering my parents were in LA for 2 days, we really packed a lot in. We had 2 shows, 1 workout, some fun meals, work around my house, and a little bit of relaxing time in there. Hopefully, they don’t need a vacation from their vacation now.

Part 1 Of A Family Visit (or Letting My Parents Relax A Bit)

My parents were visiting me for two days last week. Their stop in LA was the end of their vacation, but it was timed that way for a show that we had tickets for (that I’ll be writing about tomorrow). They had visited my brother and sister-in-law for the beginning of their trip and then they were in Catalina for several days. Their trip to Catalina was a bit more adventurous than the trip I did earlier this year. They did a lot of hiking, kayaking, and exploring while they were there. So I wanted to make their LA stop as relaxing as possible.

They got to LA on Thursday afternoon while I was still working. Even though they could have come over to my house while I was working, they took a bit of time to themselves to check in to their hotel and do a walk around Culver City. They came over when I was done, which was probably for the best since work has been picking up a lot lately.

Before my parents came, I had asked them what they wanted to do the night they arrived. We didn’t plan anything for that night and I knew that just sitting around and doing nothing wouldn’t be the best option. They asked me what I usually like to do in the evenings, but I knew my typically after work stuff wouldn’t be right. We weren’t going to go to Disneyland for a few hours, I wasn’t going to bring them to a union event, and I already knew being lazy wasn’t the right thing. So I started looking around for shows that we could potentially go to.

My parents don’t go to plays or musicals that often, but they do enjoy them. Unfortunately, it seemed like last week was between the seasons for so many places. But I did remember that a friend of mine sent me information regarding free preview tickets for the Mark Taper, so I took a look at that and my parents agreed it would be something interesting and different to do.

We also made dinner reservations downtown so we could just drive there and stay there. Of course, we were driving during rush hour traffic and it took us a long time to get there, but we gave ourselves plenty of time to drive so it was fine. We parked at the theater and made it to the restaurant right at the time of our reservation.

Sorry for not having any dinner pictures, but I was more focused on spending time with my parents. Even though I talk to them all the time, it’s different when you get to spend time in person. They were asking me things about the election and the upcoming convention. This is my 3rd convention, but it’s still a weird concept to even union members who aren’t a part of it. And I know even more now than I did before so I could explain what happens more. And my parents had seen some of the news about the election and I could update them on some of the craziness.

After dinner, we went up to the theater. My mom hadn’t been to the Mark Taper since she lived in LA (so at least 50 years ago) and my dad had never been there. It was cool to get to introduce and re-introduce my parents somewhere. And we were at the theater early enough to get to spend time on the patio in front talking more and enjoying the view of downtown LA.

The show that we went to was “A Play Is A Poem”. It is not a full play but actually 5 different 1 act shows that aren’t directly connected. The only thing they have in common is that all the 1 act shows take place in America.

We didn’t know much about the show and sometimes that is a good thing. I figured I would just be enjoying the different plays and hopefully my parents would enjoy them too.

This was the second night of previews for the show, so I don’t know if anything will be changing before it officially premieres. I did enjoy the show overall, but I didn’t love all the 1 acts. There were 2 that I thought were really great and would actually like to see as a full-length show, 2 that were good but not my favorite, and 1 that I didn’t enjoy. My parents felt the same and from listening to people leaving the theater, many people had the same opinion. I’m still glad we went because I love going to the theater, I just wish that it was a show that we all loved and were super enthusiastic about.

After the show, my parents drove me back (which was significantly faster than our drive there) and then they headed back to their hotel which was only a few minutes from my house. They had a busy travel day and I knew they were probably tired because I was exhausted. And my dad and I had an early morning the next morning for our workout.

Plus, we were all excited and wanting to get some sleep for our exciting outing the next day. But I’ll be writing about that tomorrow.