Finding A Balance (or Eating Healthy And Fun At The Same Time)

I’m struggling a bit with food again. As someone with an eating disorder, I guess I should be prepared to deal with this for the rest of my life. I just hope one day it gets easier.

I’m really working hard at staying under my calorie goals every day, but there keeps being something that prevents me from doing that. And part of it is because so much of my social life revolves around food.

Now, I don’t want to make my friends who have gone out to meals with me feel bad. That’s not what this is about. I just don’t understand how they can eat the same things as me (or more) and not have issues with it. I’m feeling insane guilt and sometimes feeling like I screwed up my whole day.

It’s hard to find the balance with healthy and fun foods, but I know it’s possible. I see people do it all the time.

And maybe I do have some sort of health issue causing problems again. I’ve met with an endocrinologist many times and some of my test results have come back suspicious. But whenever they re-test me, everything is fine again. Maybe I have to go through that process again (although it does involve blood work and I’d rather avoid dealing with needles if I can help it).

I know that a big part of what keeps me on track certain days is working out. If I work out in the morning, I have more calories to play with during the day (although I normally don’t eat my exercise calories). And if I work out at night, I feel like I have to be good all day so I feel ok to exercise after those meals. I can’t work out every evening right now because of my work schedule, but I’m looking into doing that when I’m (f)unemployed again.

I also have to think back to the time I was on the RFO Diet. For those months, I literally could not eat when I went out for meals with my friends. Sometimes I would bring my supplements with me and have them there, but more often than not I just sat there and enjoyed the company. I might start doing that again so I don’t eat foods that I regret later.

And trying restaurants I’ve never been to before is another way to prevent my guilt eating. At restaurants that I’ve been to when I’ve not worried about my weight, there are some very bad choices that I used to love to eat. And if I go back there, I’m tempted to have those things again because my memories of them are that they were delicious. There’s one sandwich at Jerry’s Deli that I used to always get. I still think about it from time to time, but I don’t go to Jerry’s anymore because I don’t want to have to deal with how many calories it is.

Sorry for the little rant today. I’m getting frustrated with my weight loss (it’s stalled right now) and I don’t know what else I can change. But I promise tomorrow will be a very exciting and positive blog post. I can’t tell you why yet, but make sure you read here tomorrow to see what happened!

3 responses to “Finding A Balance (or Eating Healthy And Fun At The Same Time)

  1. I have weight issues, too, and man do they suck! I used to count calories and lost like 40lbs. But, man, oh, man, it got annoying and tedious. It was tiresome to have to weigh the food to get the correct serving size or count the [insert food name] to not go over the limit.

    What I learned is quality over quantity. Our bodies are constantly hungry because we don’t give them the nutrients they need. You should look into The Gabriel method, if you haven’t heard of it before.

    All the best 🙂

  2. I find this to be an ongoing cultural issue that all of us who want to eat in a healthy way have to deal with constantly. American social culture simply revolves around food– we go out to meals with friends, we offer food to guests, we hold parties revolving around cookies and cakes and pizza. Offices leave leftover cake and candy in the kitchen constantly. I also feel like there’s a lot of pressure to eat some of whatever someone is offering. People have made me feel rude on more than one occasion for declining something they baked and brought to the office.

    A close friend of mine lost a lot of weight a few years ago, and found that he had to skip a lot of social events because his willpower wasn’t good enough to deal with the constant offering of food, and it made him socially anxious to decline. Personally, I couldn’t live like that, but I understand the impulse!

  3. I had thyroid cancer and have been through the wringer with thyroid problems. One word of unsolicited advice? Make sure you get your records and actually have them tell you what your TSH is, for example. You could be high/normal (like 3.0 or so) and while that’s “normal” that is really hypothyroid.

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